The Weekly Tweet October 19, 2014 Grace Episcopal and Holy Spirit Lutheran Church “We are called to be a church for the 21st century, sharing God’s love through worship, acceptance, compassion and service.” Our Cover Story: “I am so grateful!” Gratitude can Improve Your Life. Inside This Issue: Pg. 2 Pastor Pete’s Page Pg. 5 Cover Story Pg. 7 Special Event “Place at the Table” Pg. 8 Church Community Activities Pg. 11 “How to reach us” b/c Loaves & Fishes “Empty Bowls” / Respond to Ebola Crisis PASTOR PETE’S PAGE Weekly Thoughts from the Rector/ Pastor The Nineteenth Sunday after Pentecost October 19, 2014 CROP WALK is NEXT SUNDAY OCT 26— We have a couple of fun ways to help the hungry people of our world. First opportunity is Oct 26th –the annual Cortland CROP walk. Please donate to one of our parish members (and, I Hope, our confirmation class who is walking that day). You can also go to the Church World Service CROP Walk site online and look up the Cortland CROP Walk. You can use this site to donate online: www.http://hunger.cwsglobal.org. Look it up and search for the Cortland NY walk. If you want our parish to win fame for raising the most funds again this year, you can put our name in for credit if you donate on line. It would be a disappointment if we have to give up the “Super Sneaker Award.” While it is always nice to be number one, the important thing is that the CROP Walk raises money to help feed people here, around the nation, and around the world. Nevertheless, join in the CROP Walk, and help us maintain our status as “The best darn church on Court Street.” PLEASE CONTINUE TO SUPPORT LOAVES AND FISHES: BUY YOUR TICKETS TODAY AT CHURCH FOR EMPTY BOWLS DINNER There is another way to help others coming up next weekend! The big fundraiser of the year for our meal program, Cortland Loaves and Fishes, will be on Saturday October 25th at the Center for the Arts in Homer. Did you buy a ticket? There is still time to do that! See members of our congregation who have tickets to sell. Tix are $35 dollars each. Yes, it is a fundraiser! You can also contact Loaves and Fishes directly for tickets. It will be great to see many members of Grace and Holy Spirit at that event! Besides providing the space in our building, Grace and Holy Spirit helps Loaves and Fishes in other ways. A few of our members often volunteer to help in the kitchen and with serving at meal times. A few more attend board meetings. Your support of Cortland Loaves and Fishes fundraisers, as best as you are able, is another important part of that relationship we share. KIDS LITURGY UPDATE We are so happy to have a Confirmation group of young people, and lots of little ones in the parish on Sundays. Our kids’ worship time at 10:15AM is really a “Mini-Sunday school” that keeps our young people very much part of the worshipping congregation, and also allows for their need to participate in liturgy in a way they can understand. We are still recruiting more adults to help with the effort, as at least two adults from different families are needed whenever a kids’ activity is sponsored by our parish. Adult volunteers must have safe-church training. Can you volunteer? In any case, we are grateful that our parish echoes with the sound of children these days! NEXT WEEK IS ALSO OUR LUTHERAN HERITAGE SUNDAY Next Sunday, October 26th, as in recent years, we will use the Lutheran format for worship, as we commemorate Reformation Sunday. It is appropriate for Episcopalians to honor this day as well. For the Church of England also is a church of the Reformation. Where do you think Henry VIII got the idea, anyway? It will be a good opportunity next Sunday to reflect on what special gifts have come to Christian people through the changes brought by the Reformation. It will be another moment to pause 2 and ask ourselves what it really means to be Episcopal and Lutheran in the 21st century. What do we need to “reform” today to make the church more welcoming, loving, and healing for the world? What needs reforming right here at Grace and Holy Spirit, if we are truly to be a church for the people of God, as Luther would want us to be? Another good reason for the celebration is to remind us we are a blended parish. At Grace and Holy Spirit, we are one family. That means we are ALL Episcopal and we are ALL Lutheran here. No “them and us” syndrome in our family, I hope. It is just “us” here. So I especially hope Episcopalians will make a special effort to attend worship next weekend. SPEAKING OF CHURCH ATTENDANCE I know you are all busy people. There are many things that demand your attention. You cannot always make it to our building on Sunday mornings. Nevertheless, I feel a little de-energized by the recent low turnout. It is a real downer to me personally. If you have any suggestions to boost frequency of attendance by members, I would be glad to hear that. I was raised to think it was a mortal sin to miss church on Sunday; I have grown out of that. God is not a nasty God. Yet, I still firmly believe we all need to be together on Sunday, as much as we are able. Being a Christian is not only a personal, individual thing. From the beginning of the Church, being Christian did not just mean, “I believe in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior.” It also meant, “I am part of a courageous church family who together risk everything to follow Christ.” Our faith is a communal faith. We do not live our Christian faith well if we choose to do it in isolation. Please GYB* to church. You need it, and so do the rest of us. For those of you who really cannot get out of the house on Sundays, WE will come to you. If we have been neglecting you, please give the office a call, so our pastoral care team can make a visit! We do not want our homebound to think you are on your own. We are all with you! EPISCOPAL AND LUTHERAN: WHAT WE BELIEVE For Episcopal summary of faith, you can check out the red Book of Common Prayer (BCP) in the narthex book shelves (or a few in the pews). Starting at page 845, there is An Outline of the Faith, commonly called the Catechism. It is a simple statement of what we believe. Both Episcopal and Lutheran churches treasure the official creeds-the Apostles Creed, the Nicene Creed, and the Athanasian Creed. That last one may be found on page 54 of the green Lutheran Bookof Worship and page 864 of the BCP. The creeds are actually found in several places in both worship books. There are also special statements of faith which each church counts as part of its story. The Church of England has the Articles of Religion, and you can see that on page 867 in the BCP. The Augsburg Confession is a 28 point statement of what Lutherans believe, and if you want to read a summary of that, I’d suggest you go to Wikipedia online. The web sites of both denominations give a short summary of core beliefs. Of course, our churches have learned to get along much better these days, and instead of warfare, we find ongoing dialogue between Anglicans, Lutherans, and Roman Catholics. Perhaps under this new pope, more may happen in that area. We will see. 3 % ! PERCENTAGE GIVING I wouldn’t be doing my job if I did not continue to remind everyone in the parish how important it is as a spiritual practice to reflect on what you are doing to support the church. It is none of my business what amount you give to the parish, or to any other charity. But it is my responsibility to make sure you PRAY about what you are doing. What happens with your money is not just a practical thing, it is also a very personal thing. It is very important that you think about and are really aware of what you are giving as a sign of gratitude for all God has done, for all the blessings you received. In order for that to happen, we have to take time to think about what God has done for us, make a list, and then…compare that list to how we have responded to that generous love God has poured out on our lives. The only way to measure that is by knowing what percentage of our income we are giving away to church and charities. SOME INTERESTING STATISTICS ABOUT GIVING The Biblical standard for giving back to God in gratitude is “tithing” or giving 10% of what you have to help others. Most mainline congregations see folks giving between 1 and 2 percent of household income to church. Parishes that are considered thriving, with truly committed members, see average giving closer to the 4% level. Many of the people who give to church always support other charities, and it is only fair to include that in your tithing assessment. But I just want to point out that truly healthy, growing congregations show more than 4% level of giving for church. It is not a matter of being rich or of modest income. Some of the poorest zip codes in Onondaga County, for example, also have the highest percentage of household income going to charity, according to IRS and census statistics. Many of the folks in those areas attend churches that strongly preach the spiritual value of giving back to God for all we have received. If poor households can be that generous, maybe you and I can, too. What has God done for you in your life? How do you say thanks for that? What % of your income do you give back? COMMITMENT TO OUR MISSION “We are called to be a church for the 21st century, sharing God’s love through worship, acceptance, compassion, and service.” Question: Are you really behind this mission? How can you support it? *GYB is an old Latin acronym for “please make a real effort to attend.” 4 Cover story: Raising Children with an Attitude of Gratitude: Research Finds Real Benefits for Kids Who Say, “Thank You” By Diana Kapp Dec. 23, 2013 6:40 p.m. ET on the Wall Street Journal website Ben Gantert, 12, center, washes dishes near his father, Kurt Gantert, left, sister Amelie Gantert, 9, near right, and mother Gabrielle Toledano in San Francisco. The family assigns each child chores and makes sure to thank whoever cooks dinner. Laura Morton for The Wall Street Journal At the Branstens' modern white dining table, the family holds hands for their nightly ritual. Arielle, 8 years old, says she's thankful for her late grandfather, Horace, and how funny he was. "I'm missing him," she says. Her third-grade pal, over for dinner, chimes in, "I'm grateful for the sausages." Leela, who works for an education nonprofit, and her attorney husband Peter, burst into smiles. The San Francisco couple couldn't have scripted this better. Appreciation for things big and small—that's why they do this. Giving thanks is no longer just holiday fare. A field of research on gratitude in kids is emerging, and early findings indicate parents' instincts to elevate the topic are spot-on. Concrete benefits come to kids who literally count their blessings. Gratitude works like a muscle. Take time to recognize good fortune, and feelings of appreciation can increase. Even more, those who are less grateful gain the most from a concerted effort. "Gratitude treatments are most effective in those least grateful," says Eastern Washington University psychology professor Philip Watkins. A field of research on gratitude in kids is emerging, and early findings show that kids who literally count their blessings show concrete benefits. Diana Kapp explains on Lunch Break. Photo: Getty Images. Among a group of 122 elementary school kids taught a weeklong curriculum on concepts around giving, gratitude grew, according to a study due to be published in 2014 in School Psychology Review. The heightened thankfulness translated into action: 44% of the kids in the curriculum opted to write thank-you notes when given the choice following a PTA presentation. In the control group, 25% wrote notes. 5 "The old adage that virtues are caught, not taught, applies here," says University of California, Davis psychology professor Robert Emmons. Parents need to model this behavior to build their children's gratitude muscle. "It's not what parents want to hear, but you cannot give your kids something that you yourselves do not have," Dr. Emmons says. This may seems obvious, but it eludes many parents, Dr. Watkins says. "I think the most important thing for us adults to realize is we're not very grateful either," he says. The mere act of giving thanks has tangible benefits, research suggests. A 2008 study of 221 kids published in the Journal of School Psychology analyzed sixth- and seventh-graders assigned to list five things for which they were grateful every day for two weeks. It found they had a better outlook on school and greater life satisfaction three weeks later, compared with kids assigned to list five hassles. Another study examined 1,035 high-school students outside New York City. The study, published in 2010 in the Journal of Happiness Studies, found that those who showed high levels of gratitude, for instance thankfulness for the beauty of nature and strong appreciation of other people, reported having stronger GPAs, less depression and envy and a more positive outlook than less grateful teens. Further, teens who strongly connected buying and owning things with success and happiness reported having lower GPAs, more depression and a more negative outlook. "Materialism had just the opposite effect as gratitude—almost like a mirror," says study co-author Jeffrey Froh, associate professor of psychology at Hofstra University. Internet shopping has made acquisition so easy, the value of goods can be harder to recognize. "Today, if one of our boys needs a new pair of shoes, my wife goes on Zappos, picks out the color and size, and they show up the next day in a FedEx FDX -0.75% box. No wishing. No prioritizing. No desiring for something that is out of touch. Just click the button, and presto, the shoes arrive on our doorstep," says Willy Walker, who heads commercial real estate finance firm Walker & Dunlop in Bethesda, Md. "It drives me crazy." He has reacted to this reality—so different from how he'd eye a pair of Pumas at the store for months before ever getting them as a kid—with determination to keep consumption modest where possible. So, he hasn't set up the Wii his kids received as a present. "They get plenty of video entertainment all over, so why not scale back at home?" he says. When his son wanted a cellphone for his 11th birthday, Mr. Walker set out to "get the Pinto rather than the Cadillac." In this case, his resolve fell away when challenged by factors like ease and quality. "The Pintos didn't really limit access to texting or Web-browsing. They just did everything worse than the more expensive phones. So we got him an iPhone 4S. Ugh." A 2013 study in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin that tracked materialism in 355,000 high school seniors from 1976 to 2007 found that desire for lots of money has increased markedly since the mid-1970s, while willingness to work hard to earn it has decreased. Among kids surveyed, 62% thought it was important to have lots of money and nice things between 2005 and 2007, while 48% had this view from 1976 to 1978. Kurt Gantert and Gabrielle Toledano post chores such as dishwashing and taking out the trash for their kids to do. Laura Morton for The Wall Street Journal "This subject is huge for us," says Gabrielle Toledano, an executive vice president at videogame company Electronic Arts. EA -0.65% She and her husband live in San Francisco with their 9-year-old, Amelie, and 12-year-old, Ben. Ms. Toledano, and her husband Kurt Gantert, a camp director and stayhome dad, are deliberate about finding everyday ways to remind their kids how good they've got it. "We eat family dinner every night and thank Dad for making it," Ms. Toledano says. "We talk about how I work hard so we can have nice food. If the kids don't come to the table when we call them, I tell them it's rude, because someone has made an effort," she says. 6 The couple is committed to their kids' having part-time jobs when they are old enough. "They should work in the back office or the kitchen," Ms. Toledano says. "There are interesting, hardworking people there. You learn more about gratitude when you have friends who aren't as privileged as you are," she says. Despite good intentions, some parents are struggling with how to stoke the giving fires in their children. "It's an uphill battle," says Andrea Rice, president of professional development coaching business CareerCore. Her kids are 12 and 9. "We both work, so the kids have an au pair. They are shuttled from A to B. They don't really struggle much. Because that's their reality, it doesn't matter how much you say, 'Appreciate this, appreciate that,' " Ms. Rice says. Everyday actions may be even more important than big efforts, researchers say. "Express gratitude to your spouse. Thank your kids," Hofstra's Dr. Froh says. "Parents say, 'Why should I thank them for doing something they should do, like clean their room?' By reinforcing this, kids will internalize the idea, and do it on their own." Still, Eastern Washington's Dr. Watkins cautions, "Don't shove it down their throats." His family gives thanks at Thanksgiving, but it's not a formal process. "Don't make this, 'It's your turn, so say something whether you feel it or not,' " he says. UC Davis's Dr. Emmons believes gratitude is actually easier for kids. "As we get older, the give and take of life is driven by expectations around tit-for-tat reciprocity. Kids have a natural affinity to gratitude. They often teach parents as much or more about gratitude than the other way around." __________________________________________________________________________________ Wed. Oct. 22nd at 6:30 PM Screening of award-winning documentary on hunger in America, "A Place at the Table" at Christ Community Church, 292 Tompkins St., in Cortlandville CAPCO Executive Director, Lindy Glennon, will be there with information about Hunger in Cortland County. Please come and encourage church members and leaders to be present as well! Rev. Dr. Janet Adair Hansen 7 Community Activities Sunday Services at 8:00 and 10:15AM Weekday Service - Wednesdays at 12:10 PM Choir Rehearsals – Assigned Wednesdays at 7:00 PM and 9:30 AM Sundays Monthly Confirmation Classes, Gutchess Hall: (assigned Sundays as noted from approximately 12:00 noon to 3:00 PM) TODAY Ellie James has provided for flowers on the altar today in loving memory of loved ones, and may we pray for her continued recovery. Gratitude Sunday Catered brunch following each service today CONFIRMATION CLASS – noon to 2:00 PM, Gibson Conference Room 2015 Kalendars for both Episcopalians and Lutherans are available for $3.00. Please check with the ushers or church secretary. THE WEEK AHEAD Also see weekly events as noted above. Sat., Oct. 25 Mission Leadership, Vestry and Council members Retreat OCTOBER Also see weekly events as noted above. Sun., Oct. 19 Gratitude Sunday – Have you sent in your RSVP for brunch? Sat., Oct. 25 Parish Leaders Retreat, 10 AM-3 PM, Christ Community Church, (all Mission Leadership Board, Vestry and Council members), Kim Hill, Cortland Loaves & Fishes preparing lunch Sun., Oct. 26 Reformation Sunday and CROP WALK “ “ “ The Arts at Grace Bill Greer Memorial Concert 3:00 PM featuring the Don Slatoff Jazz Quartet Tues., Oct. 28 Vestry, 7:00 PM, Olver room NOVEMBER Also see weekly events as noted above. Sun., Nov. 2 Daylight Savings Time ends—Be sure to set you clocks back Saturday night. Mon., Nov. 3 Schola Cantorum rehearsal, Sanctuary 6:30 PM Tues., Nov. 4 Election Day – support Rotary Pancake Breakfast or St. Anthony’s Spaghetti Dinner Wed., Nov. 5 Cortland Loaves & Fishes Board Meeting 6:30 PM, Gutchess Hall “ “ “ Sat., Nov. 8 Diocese of CNY Youth Council, 6:00 PM, Olver Room Lay Pastoral Care, 9:00 AM, Olver Room 8 THIS WEEK’S PRAYER LIST OUR SISTER EPISCOPAL PARISHES: Trinity, Fayetteville; All Saints',Fulton OUR SISTER LUTHERAN PARISHES: All Saints and Good Shepherd, both in Hamburg IN OUR DIOCESE: Pray for all adults and youth attending Happening Weekend. DIOCESES and SYNODS: We pray for our companions: the Episcopal Diocese of El Salvador and the Evangelical Lutheran Church of Zimbabwe and Zambia. IN OUR ANGLICAN COMMUNION: Pray for the Most Rev. and the Hon. Dr. John Holder, Archbishop of the West Indies and Bishop of Barbados. Prayer List Please pray for these persons for whom special prayers are asked. Folks in the parish who need our prayers for health and well-being: Grace Nicholas Debbie Steinhauser Debbie Geibel Marianne Lont Valerie Walsh Lisa Busby Ruth Armstrong Barbara Aurand Antoinette Silburn Colleen Dye Carla K. Nielson Betty Mead Peggy Dittberner Gary Decker Sylvia Chierchio Connie Eckel Anita Kuiken’s family Ken Dye Fred Bachner, Jr. Pam Stark Friends and relatives of the parish in need of our prayers: Justine Limber-Sapansky Cindy Cobb Tony Catalano Matthew Miller Gary Fred Decker Vicki Staley Richard Berbaum Sharyn Guingo Tina Fox Patrick Whalen Michelle Duncan Marjorie Berbaum Gayle Gronemeier Terry and Melanie Wood Charlene Glezen Harvey Mead Rebekah Stull Eleanor Reynolds Susannah “Susie” Carr Erich Shafer Alan Decker Nell Adams Carolyn Chiodo(Anita’s Mom) Karen Stanford Eileen Whalen-Low Marshall Meaker Ron Hofsess Vera Wood (Pat Kinney’s mom) Those serving in the armed forces: Garrett Neill, Zachary Shea, and Chelsea Tewksbury 9 T. J. Griffin Robin Ptak Sabelli Family Elsa Ferguson Shirley Dickinson Ellie James Sue Mackey Ebert Jonathan Brown Shirley Redfield Colleen Davis Frank and Gretchen Garrow Frank Ptak Linda Mydlenski Beatrice Allen Thomas Foley Susan Hammond Chadd Sherry Shirley Morris Daniel King Fred Vleer Joyce Petrillose Jennifer Crawford Stephen Shearer Bonnie Nelson Brianna Kabanuk Joseph Adams Anne Marie Dole John Phillips Jill Porter David Lewis Isaac and Carol Joey Barbuto (Wickmans’ grandson) New copies of “Day by Day” by Forward Movement are available on the table in the vestibule (ramp entrance of church) and also in the Gutchess Hall. These complimentary booklets are daily inspirational reflections and meditations for the months of November/December 2014/January 2015. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ ST. MATTHEW’S FALL FESTIVAL: NO ADMISSION charge, bazaar, luncheon and tours of this historic (National Registry) and beautiful wood-carved church. Bazaar features crafts by local artisans, demonstration of heirloom bobbin lace making, baked goods, white elephants, FREE Face painting and Lady with 1000 pockets for children, homemade pie and coffee, raffle of a hickory buffet by Country Wood Specialties, “Guardian Angel” counted cross-stitch by Marge Newhart and a basket of home goodies. Luncheon features homemade soups and sandwiches. “Full Meal Deal” includes sandwich, bowl of homemade soup, homemade pie and beverage $6.00. The “Festival Special” includes ½ sandwich, cup of homemade soup and beverage for $3.00. FREE tour of the sanctuary features the remarkable carvings and sculptures of Hans Meyer, from the famous Oberammergau (o-ber-a-mergow) school in Bavaria, Germany. There will be a demonstration and display of exquisite hand-made bobbin lace during the day of Mrs. Bonnie Breed. St Matthew’s Episcopal Church, 14 Church St., Moravia, NY 13118 – Saturday, November 22, 2014; 9-3 luncheon 11-2 / tours; 10-2 / drawing for raffle winners at 3PM. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ Quarterly Statements—If you would like to receive quarterly contribution statements, please contact Lorraine Sherry (756-5571.) ___________________________________ Things to Ponder You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. Kahlil Gilbran 10 We need your help in reducing the cost of returned mail due to address changes, even temporary ones. Please complete the following form and put in the collection plate, e-mail to [email protected], telephone the church office 607753-3073 or mail the info to Grace and Holy Spirit Church, PO Box 170, Cortland, NY, 13045. CHANGE OF ADDRESS Name _________________________________ If temporary change: Address Change to: ______________________ Start date: ___________ ______________________ End date: ___________ Phone or e-mail change or correction ______________________________________ Would you like to receive “Tweet” (our weekly newsletter) on line? Call the office 753-3073, or e-mail [email protected] to be added to the list. *********************************************************************************************************** Writing checks to Church….. As of July 1, 2014 – You may write your checks payable to GRACE AND HOLY SPIRIT. But please specify if you are affiliated with Episcopal or Lutheran ELCA on the memo line ELECTED CHURCH LEADERS: MISSION LEADERSHIP BOARD (MLB) MLB Elected Officers Gwen Barbato Eline Haukenes Regina Grantham Kent Klanderman Victor Torres Mary Ellen Ensign Kristen Augusta Cary Howie Kay Wood Regina Grantham Mary Ellen Ensign Cary Howie and Lynn Stark Chair Vice-Chair Secretary Treasurer, appointed GRACE EPISCOPAL Vestry HOLY SPIRIT LUTHERAN Council Gwen Barbato - Senior Warden Susan Wilson- Junior Warden Kristen Augusta Thomas Caminiti Colleen Dye Cary Howie Sheryl Morris Stephen Robinson Lorraine Sherry Victor Torres Rosemary Vail Jerry Casciani, Clerk of the Vestry Eline Haukenes, President Jo Ann Wickman, Vice-President Joe DeMarco, Secretary Kent Klanderman, Financial Secretary Jeanine Rose, Treasurer Council members: Don and Dawn Covey STAFF: The Rev. Peter A. Williams, Rector/Pastor The Rev. Thomas Margrave, Rector Emeritus Dr. David Neal, Music Director Barbara Bergeron, Administrative Assistant Art Ptak, Church Sexton Greg Eades, Thursday Sexton How to reach us…. Grace and Holy Spirit Church; 13 Court Street, P.O. Box 170; Cortland, NY 13045 Phone: 607-753-3073 Fax: 607-753-3074 Email: [email protected] Website: gracechurchcortland.com To reach Fr. Peter during an emergency, please call 1-315-727-8189. “We are called to be a church for the 21st century, sharing God’s love through worship, acceptance, compassion and service.” 11
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